2010 Cancer Anniversary Acceptance Speech

Hello Friends,

Imagine if you had to give a speech in honor of your cancer remission. What would you say?
Check mine out.

Thank you for this honor!

WOW! 2010 was filled with milestones!

I got my book published, spoke at seminars and conferences,

and I met wonderful people.

But the most phenomenal thing that happened to me

is that I made my Cancer Remission Anniversary Date.

This is the biggest honor any survivor could get!!

Though there are many people that made this day possible,

I'd like to give special mention to those behind the scenes.

To my neighbor, I don't know anything about you beyond the fact you

always seem to be in the front window when I come home from treatment.

Though I never heard your voice, it was good to see your face

when I got out the car.

You never smiled or waved, but your eyes said 'I'm watching you!'

To my mailman, thank you for the prompt mail,

although you could have kept the bills and bought get well cards,

but I do appreciate your regular visits.

To the patient maintenance man, thank you for waiting until I

finished vomiting to repair the bathroom sink.

To the grocery store manager, who always had a 2 for 1 sale going

on when I was low on money.

To my friends at the pharmacy, thank you for inquiring about my

health and making sure I didn't overdose this year.

To the cab driver, thank you for getting me to the clinic in one piece,

although you clearly weren't fit to be behind the wheel.

To my hairdresser, who had the good graces not to tell me how bad I looked;

even though I paid handsomely for the privilege.

To the ladies in the breast cancer support group, thank you for helping

me to accept having one breast.

To my former boss who fired me because you didn't want

to be around a 'cancer person'. Thanks to you, I had time to finish my book!

And finally, a special thank you for the invention of plastic surgery and liposuction.

Truthfully, I hate to exercise and it was faster this way!

I humbly accept this honor on behalf of all breast cancer survivors!

Till next time.......
Yours Truly,
pj
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Free Gifts

Happy Holidays Everyone!

Whew! That time of year is almost over. Rather you want to admit it or not, you are probably thinking like I am. Holidays can be overwhelming! Rushing here and there, I tell you, traffic was a nightmare on the expressway this afternoon! The malls were packed and every dollar store in town had a waiting line. People are everywhere getting gifts and trying to bring some joy with a meager budget.

My question is---Did anyone get the memo? Does anybody remember the reason for the season?

Remember when we were kids? Remember when a platter of Christmas cookies and the dreaded fruitcake were the norm for a hostess gift? Or getting that Schwinn 10 speed and favorite toys under the tree? Carolers roamed the street and everyone had a holiday outfit to wear to Christmas dinner. A lot of us visited church too. Of course life was easier and things were cheaper. And most of us had a decent job. But I don't remember the frantic frenzy to buy the latest things! The level of stress is unbelievable! What happened?

We have a lot of answers but do we have solutions? Since we are so commercialized; how hard would it be to declare a non money Christmas? Could we actually survive without expensive gift giving? Could we give something that was made by our hands? Or give a gift with a purpose? And I'm not talking about a new car either!

I put this challange out to you. And these are the guidelines.

1-Think of a Meaningful Gift

2-You must make the gift

3-The gift must remind them of the reason for the season

Give it a try and let me know what happened!

Till then, take care and be safe.

pj

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Getting Motivated

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On my last trip I had the 'pleasure' of having my bags stripped searched. After the pat down, the Security Agent said...'My, we do love our stuff'. I didn't know whether to feel embarrassed or what! There I was, surrounded by efficient one-bag travelers and I had a baggage cart. And this was my carry-on stuff! My trusty prosthesis, hemovac and various cancer related paraphernalia. It took two agents to check it all out.
Yeah, I did have a lot of stuff, but what author/speaker doesn't? I travel with a portable file cabinet full of notes and research materials. You never know when you have to look something up or add some more material. And of course, I have a bag for misc. stuff, like changes of clothing, toothpaste and so on. My entourage of luggage has an entourage of its own! I share all this with you to say that as I'm blogging, I'm trying to motivate MYSELF to unpack and get organized. My bags have been sitting here for a few days now. And the moving company delivered my office stuff just yesterday. The only thing put together is my computer. I did form a small path to get to it. That was some progress. On one side of the room is my travel stuff and opposite is my office stuff. Somehow, this has got to blend. My kids say I need to come into the 21st century and put everything on my IPOD. Problem is, I can't remember which bag it's packed in.
My assistant offered to do it for me, but I thought I would do it myself. I'm currently re-thinking that decision. So in the mean time, I will make a list like my mom. She's famous for making to-do lists. She says it keeps her focused on the task at hand. So here goes:

How to Filter Your Stuff

• 1-Know WHAT you want to keep. I leave this open.
• 2-Know what you NEED to keep. Q: Is this important ?
• 3-Know HOW to keep it. Suggestion: Color coded labels, need I say more?

My assistant swears by the color coded label system, although my question is ...Do I need a system to keep my system straight? Files,organization and all that stuff require a focused mind. But if you are like me, multi tasking all the time, you have to SCHEDULE your FOCUS TIME.

So now that I got my list done, the question is WHEN to do it. hmmmm..... This requires some thought too. After all, it is vacation time this week, and I would be amiss if I worked straight thru. So, I think I will take another vacation day, talk to my grand kids and rethink my to-do list. I am sure between the turkey and sweet potato pie, a solution will come to me. After all, being self motivated requires you to face the task at hand, wholeheartedly. Something best done with a restful mind and full belly.
Last of all, I could DO WHAT IS BEST for everyone and call my assistant. She would have me up and running in no time! No thought process needed, just follow her instructions.
hmmmm, this sounds like a plan! Let me find my phone.....but, I would insist that the color coded filing system be in my favorite colors!

I'd like to know, how do you FOCUS?

Till we meet again, Have a Happy Thanksgiving Holiday and remember our soldiers away from home.
pj





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Inspired Travels

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Hello Friends,
I'm having a pretty busy month, and just think, it's only the 10th of the month! So far, I have been to three states, three train stations, two bus stations with five layovers, two college campuses, three stages and lost my luggage only twice! All in all, I would say it has been good!

I met some interesting people along the way too. I make it a point to reach out, you never know who you may meet. For instance, the mom and daughter from SC that shared their food with me on the train. We laughed and traded stories about grand kids and 'the little green apples' of life.
And let's not forget the uniformed conductors who smiled a lot.(If you haven't rode a train in awhile, you really should check out the wide soft seats and the spacious leg room.)

I was priviledged to ride with Tony Pearson, Host of The Tony Pearson Talk Show. He's a relationship expert, so you can be sure that I HAD to ask him my two questions. Wasn't going to miss that opportunity! It was like having my own 'Dr. Phil' !!!!!
I need to give special mention to a couple of people I met at the Confident Woman Conference. First of all, Kimberely of FAITH GIRL. She traveled long distance as well. You can see her products at www.faithgirl.net and Pastor Dennese Spencer of WOW Ministry. www.chosenvesselswow.webs.com. Two separate women on the same path of faith. Need I say more?. Special props to Yolanda, Sheila and the ladies in the front row. Next, Chip Daniels of CND Photography, who was all over the place. Mama Woods and her hats, and let's not forget, 'Security'. David Lewis. He made sure my logistics were logical, all with a smile.
I can't forgot the Howard University Coaching staff and students that graced our booths with perfect manners, a positive reflection on the education system of Howard University.
See what all the 'hoopla' is about, view them at www.howard.edu

We know it takes many people to make events run smoothly, and the staff at the Courtyard Marriott/USC did just that. After 5 hours in travel limbo, they pulled it all together for me. And as if it couldn't have gotten any better, Pastor Woods and her husband dragged me along with them after the event was over. Between the football game, smothered steak, sweet potatoes AND a comfortable chair, I was ready to become a room mate!.
I want to thank the Lord for an awesome message of faith and inspiration. And I look forward to the next event!!
Make sure you clear your calender for next years' Confident Women Conference. Let me know and I will meet you at loading dock #2 on the west platform. Oh, and make sure you take a carry on bag with a change of clothes, I'm still looking for a shipment of my books and a pair of jeans.
Talk to you later,
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Conferences for your Soul

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Hello Friends,
I am having a wonderful time at the Confident Women's Conference! Have you ever been to one?
This one is like a combination of Joyce Meyer, Paula White, and Creflo Dollar all rolled into one.
It's sort of a mini mega blast!
There are booths full of inspirational items, from t-shirts, jewerly, munchies..all kinds of stuff..
of course my book is there too, Behind The Pink Ribbon, www.behindthepinkribbon.info

Pastor Ruth Woods spoke on following your passion, not letting negative stuff be around you and keep pushing forward. (liked that one) If you get a chance you REALLY need to check her out. www.ruthwoodsministriesintl.org
Conferences are good for the soul and physically connect with others on your walk of faith, like I mentioned before, this is part of your extended support group. This helps develop passion and motivate your drive. I met great people along the way too. Two ladies on the train shared their food and conversed with me during the ride. And, I actually met THE Tony Pearson, relationship talk show host. Rest assured, I HAD to ask his advice. Wasn't going to miss that chance!
I am looking forward to another conference soon, why don't you join me? It will be good for the soul, and isn't it about time you did something for YOU?
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and drop me a line on this blog. Looking forward to hearing from you!
In the meantime, I'm off in search of pancakes!
Later

Womens Conference--Be There!!

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Hello Friends,
This week you will find pj's cancer blogs exploring just 'How to Empower Yourself!"
Join me in the celebration of women and all we do at the Confident Women Conference
Nov. 4-6 in Columbia, SC. It is a moment in time we owe ourselves!
Check out: www.ruthwoodsministriesintl.org for all the exciting details!
You will want some of this, Ladies, Blessings all around! Meet others in our walk with God.
You can bet I will have plenty to say after this weekend!

Till then, stay clear and focused!

Hidden Places

Hello Friends,

In honor of the coming new year, I'm issuing a challange. I want everyone to send me an email and describe your Hidden Place. These are the rules:

1-Not x rated

2-Must be calming.

3-Not deframing or downgrading.

You must describe this place so that if I close my eyes, I can visualize it. I'm not talking about spas, or gyms or mountain hiking. But an old fashioned Hidden Place, a secret fort or spot where only you went. Are you up to it?

Not long ago, I stumbled on a place like that. It was located on a busy street. Tucked away between this and that. You drive too fast and you will miss it. And it's the kind of place where you don't think too much about until you really need to go there.

From the moment you open the door, you know you are in a safe place. The feeling of calmness envelopes you. A place where time stands still as you look around. There are books everywhere. All kinds of sizes in every type of book you can imagine. You can get lost in that small store, but you can also find yourself there. That's one of the funny things about this bookstore. There's even a relaxing chair with a foot rest in one corner. Just by looking at it, you know it is comfortable. I could feel a nap coming on just by standing there. I instantly claim this to be my 2010 Hidden Place! This place will be my secret. No negative vibes allowed!
No glitz and glamour either. Just good old fashioned smelling-like-lemons and oil soap place!
This is my healing place. My santuary.

Survivors need their own hidden place. You can't just come there. Memberships do apply. It's someplace we can escape to, snuggle down in, and cast our cares away just for a moment in time. Someone told me once that a hidden place is where ever your mind takes you. I agree in a way, but some of us like brick and morter to our hidden places.

When we are young, we often find secret hiding places. There we keep our toys, our snacks and anything else we decide to claim. From buttons to cookies, our secret place holds it all!

As we get older, we close our secret places, they become forever locked in our memories.

But when we are diagnosed, they are the first place we find ourselves drawn to.

Strange as it seems, these hidden places hold some of the foundations of survival.

Hidden Places are where we are ourselves without partners, kids or doctors.

In our hidden place we call the shots! We get to decide how things go down. And it is where we gather our reinforcements. First place we learned how to organize, plan and dream. Think about it.

Where was your hidden place? A tree, an old car, under your bed or a secret place outside?

Go ahead, take the challange, dig into your mind and remember your hidden place. If you never had one, this is the perfect time to create one.

You may just find what you need to survive and thrive. Just don't forget to come back!

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No Cancer After Dark

I just found out that I have a new love. I know that must be hard to imagine, especially since to find a love you had to be looking for one, right? Well, I wasn't in the market for new love. It came without warning, took me by surprise. It has turned my life inside out. And its hard not to get swallowed up in the vortex. You may know of it, my new love is called Cancer.

Now, don't get me wrong, I DON'T LOVE being a cancer survivor. But I have to deal with it because it has become the fore front to my life now. It loves me, but the feeling is not mutual.

I am surrounded by cancer all day. I see it, I talk it, I read about it. I could try and put it in the back of my mind and forget about it, but how fair is that? Especially with all the reminders around me. With every doctors appt. I try to leave Cancer, but when I get into the car, its in the back seat. I go to the store, its all over the place. I worry that it is too much for my non cancer family members. They want me to forget and move on too.

But you tell me how I can do when it even showers with me. And some of my friends have cancer too.

It is provoking and frustrating to learn to adjust to this new love. It demands all my attention. Sometimes, I have to come up for air, or it will consume me.

I guess that's why I try to not have cancer after dark. In this way, I can see myself as the perfect lover, with no scars or mutilated aspects of survivorship. I can relax and get to know the new me. You see, after dark I feel safe. I can light candles to create calming atmosphere. I can pour myself an ounce of red wine and slowly sip into an abyss. I can close my eyes and listen to soft jazz, no words sung. The only voice I want to hear is my soothing thoughts.

After dark, I can put my cancer in a small box in the corner. And for one moment in time, I can be with me. Oh, in a way, I'm thankful for my new love. It does put the greater good into perspective. It conj oles me and punishes me. And it lets me see myself.... my real self.... after dark.

I have come to the conclusion that Cancer and I have to learn to live hand in hand. It won't be easy, each of us comes with baggage. So I have a proposal.....Cancer can hang around during the day, Mon to Fri between 8-2pm, alternating Saturdays and every other blue moon.

But defiantly ..... not after dark.

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Cancer State Of Mind.........Reaffirming My Path At Life's Crossroads

My dad used to say 'Sometimes in life, we have to step back and access just where we have been and where we are going.' I have been doing that lately, and I can tell you it is difficult. But with my doctor screaming in one ear and reality in the other, I had to do something.
Many of you know me as a breast cancer survivor, but few of you know that there are many sides to my world. It has become a journey in itself to balance my old life and my new one. So recently, I decided that it is time to give 100% of me to being a survivor OF cancer.


Believe it or not, it was not easy to explain why I can't participate in some things or function as others THINK I should be able to. The reality is that my body is aging and I have long term side effects that we are STILL RESEARCHING, all for better quality of life.


Yes! I said it! I am getting older. But...hopefully WISER.

So my new affirmed goal is to live as if today is my last day, be happy and laugh more ....and lean on my FAITH more! I'm going to speak more about Early Detection, Health Care and cancer relationships, both personal and professional. I want my 'Eco Health' footprints to be positive.


A co worker stated that I must be rich to be able to do what I want. I calmly told her no, not in the sense she thought, this was a faith walk. She looked puzzled, but she is young, and no doubt has not been thru life's fire yet. So I explained to her that there comes a time in every one's life that they must go left or right. They must be true to themselves and be able to give all to any direction they choose. Sometimes, the choice is made for them. In my case it was my cancer diagnosis.

The trick, I found, was to follow three steps; 1-To collect and build resources for a solid foundation. 2-Unselfishly reach out and help others the best you can. 3-Keep your FAITH first.


I admit in my earlier years I took my health for granted. I abused my body with the best of them. And even I AM still surprised it keeps breathing. So I am advising each and every one of my friends to reaffirm to do the right thing and take care of your health. Perhaps, you can eliminate potential health issues later on. I believe the Bible says to 'Prepare for famine in times of feast.' That should apply to everything.

Early Detection, people! Stay on your diet, stay on your faith walk. Then perhaps you won't have to reaffirm so many times.

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and don't forget to read my book, Behind The Pink Ribbon. Not your usual read on cancer.

Quote of the month:

'Finding meaning in the face of our greatest trials is the heart of it all.'

Michael Lerner, PhD Commonweal Research Institute, Bolinas, California.

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Breast Cancer Awareness Countdown

  Breast Self Exam 101 Video

Next month  begins the countdown to  October--Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Just think, a whole month dedicated to  Breast Cancer Awareness!  We could really do some serious ‘awareness’ if we put our communication skills to the test.

This is a good time to schedule a mammogram, a physical and learn how to do a MONTHLY breast self exam too.  Make sure you talk to your health professional as well.  I review vast material on breast health care all the time. But I found this easy to-do article written by the CYWH Staff at Children's Hospital Boston to be the best one yet.

How to Do A    BREAST    SELF    EXAM

Lying down:

First, place a pillow under your right shoulder. Next, put your right hand under your head.

• Check your entire right breast area with the pads of the fingers of your left hand.
• Use small circles to feel all around your breast, then feel up-and-down (see the diagram below):

• Use light, medium, and firm pressure over each area of your breast.
• Gently squeeze the nipple to check for any discharge.
• Switch arms and repeat these steps on your left breast.

In front of a Mirror:

• Check for any changes in the shape or look of your breasts.
• Note any skin or nipple changes such as dimpling or nipple discharge.
• Look at your breasts in four steps: arms at sides, arms overhead, hands on hips pressing firmly to flex chest muscles, and bending forward.

In the Shower:

• With soapy hands and fingers flat, raise your right arm.
• Check your right breast.
• Use the same small circles and up-and-down pattern described above in the “Lying Down” position.
• Switch arms and repeat on your left breast.

Again, make sure you keep an open line of communication between your doctor or health professional.

And Friends, take a moment and listen to this video below on breast exams! It is so funny just to watch, but it gets the message across.

Oh, and back by request—Sex and Cancer/ Relationships- interviews with Survivors and their partners—this should prove interesting!     Stay Tuned!

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Developing Your 20 Mule Team

Hello  Friends,

You all know that I am a Clinical Trials Participant for life, and for my new friends this means that every few months I climb up on the exam table and let my 20 Mule Team poke, prod, scrape and scan my body. It is an unwritten understanding that I continue my follow-up appointments with them. Though, I have to admit I am not all that willing at times. To be truthful, these exams are time not a favorite of mine. But I go because my long term survival FOLLOW UP  is IMPORTANT.   It means that the Clinical Trial that I participated in WORKED. It means that the investigational medications WORKED. And it means that MY 20 Mule Team WORKS! I have been in remission for Stage 3b Breast Cancer for over a decade and counting!  And some of you know that I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer last year. Thankfully, it was caught very very early. I knew that because my 20 Mule Team has their stuff together and when the symptoms started, I wasn’t scared as much. I felt empowered to ask and seek help. That’s because it was drilled into me early on that COMMUNICATION was VITAL in me staying ahead of any reoccurrences or changes in my body. Yes, it’s true…at times I get to practice what I preach.

Although, I am embarrassed to say that I am the first to procrastinate on my health, I do try to motivate others to do as I say and not as I do. Does that make sense? I have seen first hand how early detection works. I’ve come to believe, it is the difference between having a natural bra shape verses one that is reconstructed. I wish I had a 20 Mule Team way back then.  Perhaps, early detection would have spared me.

But on the other hand, I have became appreciative of the simple things. Like a smile or the sunset. Or like allowing people to care for me. And that brings me back to having your own 20 Mule Team. As an advocate of Breast Health and Clinical Trials I support 20 Mule Teams. They are made of doctors, nurses, lab techs, radiologist, pathologist and supporting staff give or take. They allow a face to put on your recovery.  They offer guidance and vital interaction. But the funny thing about a 20 Mule Team is that they can be made of ANYBODY that positively cares for you and the greater good. The beauty of a team member is that there are only two rules to follow. 1-To have the patient’s /friend’s best interest at all times and 2-To provide unyielding support. It’s that simple.

20 Mule Teams come in all facets of your life. Most people lump them into categories, like best friends, support groups, sororities, you get the picture.  Lately I have been expanding my external 20 Mule Team.  I had the privilege of meeting a very unique person and his associate the other day. We talked for a while about my mission to advocate Education and Clinical Trials. And when I stopped talking long enough, I found that we were on the same page as I was in educating the minority community as well. Their programs were more structured than mine, but they didn’t make my mission seem any less important. I admire their approach to this complex situation. Minority Health education is wrought with cultural and social barriers. We passionately discussed our surprisingly mutual viewpoints and goals. And by the time the meeting was over, I felt that we had connection. They work on a larger scale then mine, but the meeting was proof positive that the small fish in the sea  are as vital as the large ones. Perhaps the next time we meet, it will be to celebrate the collective awareness across the board regardless of social and cultural differences.  So I humbly submit them for membership.

Their support makes  them the perfect candidate for my ‘EXTERNAL 20 MULE TEAM!’

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Working on my Quality of Life

Hello Friends,

Yeah, I know..it’s been awhile.  I have been very busy with life and many of you can relate. I’m working on the new book, a thriller with twists and turns plus trying to finish up my research/notes on the family and cancer book that is due out next year.

I’m knee deep in the rat race.  And I’m the one always preaching about balancing daily life and being a cancer survivor. ..go figure….Each step is supposed to be thought out before I make that move, and when I do.. all goes ok, …..BUT there are times that I think I can do it all and rush out there without plans. We all do it…..don’t be shocked! I don’t get enough sleep and I don’t eat right all the time. Finding that balance for my quality of life is a daily chore in itself. But if I want to live, I have to do it.  My natural nature is not lazy, so it is often hard to slow down. This puts my body in a ‘push me pull me’ state constantly. On top of that, chemo brain sets in too. At least I like to claim that when I can’t remember anything.

So I keep a daily reminder book and lots of notes to stay on track. I depend on my support team to drag me out of bed and push me to work. Often, they are the very ones that are holding me up, you just don’t see them because they are for my eyes only.

I encourage each of you to set up your own support team. They can be your mom, (just make sure she is open minded) your best friend, (same rule applies) and perhaps the mailman too. What I am saying is that your support team needs to be a positive one. They can’t judge you, especially in public, make you feel ashamed or stupid, but most of all, they must love the new YOU. Because  when the dust settles, and you actually SEE what you are capable of surviving, you won’t want to be around negative energy. Stay positive, move forward and you too can be in a constant state of ‘push me/pull me’.

What out cancer!! WE ARE BREATHING DOWN ON YOU FOR THE CURE!!!

Hang in there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Hello Friends,

I was interviewed to day by a cool lady by the name of Yvonne Ortega. She is an author too.  Yvonne has a website, www.yvonneortega.com and a blog radio show. She’s been around the cancer world for several years now, and considered somewhat of an authority of faith and cancer.  I liked Yvonne.

We talked about Clinical Trials, my book, the Support Your Survivor program and my Faith.  She has  great communication skills and radio suits her very well. After all, she put up with me for 30 minutes. In the interview she asked what made me write about Clinical Trials. I gave her the usual answer, but it’s really simple when you get right down to it, AWARENESS AND OPTIONS.

If more of us thought of everyone else and not always about themselves we would probably have found cures for many ailments and diseases by now.  We should be talking  and praying more.  We need to be aware……we need volunteerism..and we need more caring. Constant budget struggles and negative thinking is what bogs progress down. I know we have to work and to feed our families, but let’s not get too busy we forget until illness comes a ‘callin’.

Let’s get together on the issues and figure out a way that everyone can see the doctor and not be intimidated by cost and lack of knowledge.

Have Faith, people……..Yvonne’s  message today was not just about me BUT what we should stand  for.  You can listen to my interview in the blog talk radio archives.

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Blog Radio Interview June 29 at 10am

Hello Friends,

Well, I’m at it again, I guess I will never learn!  Here it is at the end of the month, and I am STILL running hard and sleeping less. Yeah…. I know… this is not good for my body, and I’m the one preaching health and taking it slower ! Go figure…..

For those of you lucky enough to have Tuesday June 29  at 10 am free, I would love for you to join me in a live interview with Hope For The Journey. The blog radio show is hosted by my good friend Yvonne  Ortega.  The show is for women who have been diagnosed with breast cancer and walks with them from diagnosis to survival.  Yvonne has a unique way of making her guests feel comfortable and appreciated for sharing their experiences. Every time I listen to her interviews I get a deeper sense of pride about being a survivor.

We probably will talk more about my projects than my book, but that’s ok. In case some of you didn’t know, I am involved with the ‘Support Your Survivor’ program. It is network of cancer survivors, therapists, some medical folks and a handful of small community based  organizations. The heart of our mission is to assist low income breast cancer patients with a prosthesis. It’s really that simple. We are working on the website, but you can see some info on my site, www.behindthepinkribbon.info.

I am looking forward to talking with Yvonne and her audience. As you know, since becoming a survivor, my life has taken a totally different turn, and although I am still in remission, I continue to live with the fear that the cancer will return. And this is where true faith comes in, and believe me..I use it every day. That is why the ‘Hope For The Journey’ blog talk radio show is so important. It gives cancer diagnosis and survival a voice. So you can bet it’s going to be interesting  talking with Yvonne!

Feel free to join us!   Check out Yvonne’s site at www.yvonneortega.com.

Link to the show, Tues June 29, 10 am  www.blogtalkradio.com/hope-for-the-journey

The call in number is 347-996-5368.

Hope to hear from you!!

ps. I will finish my series on Clinical Trials and Me next week.

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Clinical Trials & Me Part 2

                                                                   

Empowerment…. Education…..The series continues…..

Hi Friends,

This past week I saw a preview of a documentary called Not As I Pictured It, by John Kaplan.  It’s a short film about the effects of cancer thru a photographers lens. It was provoking and yet easily relatable, especially with yours truly. I don’t think the photographer had any particular sex in mind when he filmed it, and that’s what made it unique, the message came across universally.

If you get a chance to see it, please go! We need more films like this. Let’s face it, half  of us out there are visual, we learn by sight. 

After the film I met several interesting people involved in community outreach. These are the men and women that go into the communities and have health fairs, bring info to masses, and so on.  Their job is often thankless, their only satisfaction is  from direct contact. As an outreach advocate supporter, I often find that talking with people about cancer is a hard sell. Oh, people want to hear about your story, but only in phases. You see, I’m standing there telling someone about my journey, but all they can see is that I survived. And that’s the real message to them. But in my eyes, my message says you have  choice in your ‘quality of life’ after diagnosis. It is up to the individual to be aware of the options of treatment available, to be open to new challenges for their health.

This is a challenge in the  minority communities. I’m not sure, but perhaps the idea of health takes a back seat to daily survival. Not long ago, health care was only for those that could afford it. Hospitals didn’t welcome minority patients. This held true in Asian, African American and Hispanic communities alike. I can still see doubt and fear in some of the older members of our society even today when I speak to them about personal health. My mom has a saying, ‘we don’t speak about the unpleasant’.  She grew up in dust bowl poverty. In her childhood, when a woman was sick, her options were limited. Going to see a doctor was not even a discussion. And I won’t go there as to the reasons ‘why’.

Thankfully, times are improving. And the reasons ‘why’ are constantly changing as well. A women’s first option is self education. She needs to be aware of her body changes and grab time for herself to address those changes with a doctor of her choice. Women are now encouraged to ‘speak about the unpleasant’.

I find it easier to speak to older minority women. They didn’t grow up with all the bling and media blitz. They are from a simpler time. One where people sat down and talked.  A world of one on one education. That is why it is very important to support all forms of education. Be it print on paper, a seminar, video or photos, what ever it takes we need to do it to get the word out.

Women, take note! All around are resources. Walk into  a clinic, ask for help. Don’t be afraid to look out for yourself. If you aren’t satisfied, get a second opinion. There are free mammograms, free breast exams, free physicals and even free lab work. There are social  workers that can set you up with medical insurance, nurses that can refer you to patient assistance programs for prescriptions, even Wal-Mart has jumped on the band wagon and offers life threatening meds at a very low cost. I applaud them, yours truly didn’t have that option back then. Call your local hospital, ask for the social worker. They have a list of current programs in that facility, if not they can point you in the right direction.

Some of the neighborhood health centers have assistance as well. Local civic groups, fraternities, and churches are trying to get the word out too. You can even call the American Cancer Society. If you find a cancer education program in your area, tell someone else. Share your knowledge. Hand out flyers on free health info. Even the radio sky jock himself Tom Joyner, says ‘Take A Loved One to the Doctor!’ Go to free health fairs,  ask your doctor more questions, and step up to your health.

Most of all, you can talk to each other about your health concerns. Sister, we are each others’ strengths and weaknesses. We are linked together  and cut from the same cloth. Encourage the older women in your family and neighborhood to be informed.We may look different outside, but inside we are moms, sisters, daughters, grandmothers, aunts and friends.

We work together, we cry together so why not get  empowered together?

Remember, Support Your Survivor…. 

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Clinical Trials & Me Part 1

Hello Friends,

This is the first part of a series of blogs I’m doing on Health and Welfare of a Woman.

Part of being a clinical trials survivor is getting the word out. It is not enough to talk to your family or your friends, you have to let everyone YOU know and WHO they know that participating in a clinical trial is rewarding and helpful. I know a lot of you are uncomfortable with the idea of clinical trials, but there has been some massive changes. Every trial goes thru years of research and lab testing BEFORE it is even considered for patient participation.

Every trial is monitored by the FDA and the medical community plus several outside organizations who eagle-eye every thing the researchers can think of. Of course, yours truly didn’t think about that stuff when she jumped in. I went because at the time, my survival options were less than 20%.  And that included no insurance and financial ruin. Yet I am still here!

True, Faith played a big part, but I have to admit I did trust the doctors more than my faith because I felt abandoned. I just couldn’t wrap my brain around the fact the good Lord let cancer happen to me. But thru it all I rose to be a stronger person with several perks.

1-I can justify my ‘jacked up’ hair due to chemo reaction.

2-R & R is an important step to recovery, take advantage of it. Sleep longer, move slower, vacation often, send an annoying person packing because you need the rest..you get my drift…

3-I ‘gained’ weight due to my compromised lymph edema system. I get comfort  instead of criticism for the weight gain. Though sad… its true. I experience the joy of shopping every time I swell!

4-I can be crazy, yell and scream. I'm entitled, I saw hell and survived.

4-Your results benefit millions not just you. Where else can you make that claim? And they are forever.

5-My survival is a tribute to Faith & Clinical Trials. I’m here because I made the decision to take charge and have some say in my cancer treatment. I was blessed because the good Lord and twenty white coats decided I was worth it.

What do you think of Clinical Trials?   Better yet, Aren’t you worth the risk?

Survivors Need Your Support

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Hello Friends,

I received an email requesting information about the Support Your Survivor Program.
Normally, I would refer them to the website, but its being worked on. So here it is.

Basically, it's a nationwide group of small faith based organizations, stores and support groups that assist low income women with prosthetics. Awhile back I had the unpleasant experience of having to wear a breast prosthesis. Yes, yours truly is admitting that I had to haul around a weight about the size of a 5lb sack of potatoes. It wasn't easy and always painful! I had deep dents in my shoulders from the holster and red lines irritating the surgical site. On top of it all, the holsters came only in two colors and looked like military vests. They were bulky and very uncomfortable. Needless to say, reconstructive surgery couldn't come fast enough!

Over the years I meet several women who experienced the same issues. We needed options and style. It took some work, but eventually Support Your Survivor materialized. We offer products made by cancer survivors for a small donation. We are small now but someday we hope to be like Walmart. Just kidding, a survivor can dream. OK?

This year is an exciting one for us! Already we have a raffle donated by special supporters and we have a couple of events scheduled for the fall. I will keep you posted on the activities of the Program on the website newsletter, which at this moment is being developed.

One of the events is a health fair. These are my favorite because I can get all the info at one stop. I can speak to other survivors and get free food! And yours truly does love her free food! By the way, if you are near Nanny Barnes's house, stop by for the best lemon pound cake ever!!
I hope to see many of you there!

Meeting New People On The Journey

How are you?

It isn’t enough to just walk by someone and nod a greeting. Both of you keep going totally obvious to the opportunity of meeting someone new. I am not saying that everyone you encounter on daily basis is ok, you have to rely on your own moral compass for that, but every now and then stop and say hello, how are you doing?

On an average day I may speak to over 50 or so people, the exception being my seminars. And I have come to the conclusion that most people are lost too. Just like me.  Since we aren’t privy  to the good Lord’s plans,  we just wander around life. In the way the Indians circled the wagons. 

I think we need to stop a moment and look at the people that cross our path. For example, the other day I met an engaging older lady  at the gift shop. She had an affectionate manner about her, but professional as well. We struck up a conversation that lasted a good half hour. We talked as if we were old dear friends. When I left the gift shop I reflected that if I done what I normally do and just nod and walk by I would not have had a pleasant morning and a reminder that we are all in this life together.    

So I challenge you, dear friends, to say hello more often, smile every day and try to remember that just one nice thing you do could make someone’s day brighter.

Isn’t great we are all different?

Have a Great Day!!!!!

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When Cancer Comes A Callin’

Hello Friends,

What had begun as a few research articles have turned into a new book. As if I don’t have enough to do, the good Lord has seen fit to give me more to  write about. It marks a cumulative journey of sorts. My new book, due out 2011 will usher a new page in my life.  It is about families, cancer and crisis.

Usually, when a family is in this state the normal thing to do is retreat. We don't want to be caught in their  sorrow and drama.  But not yours truly !!  From the moment of diagnosis, I have been drawn to families in crisis mode. I feel something in my heart to reach out and help. I DEEPLY feel that  every family deserves a chance to live and grow beyond the diagnosis. So  awhile back, I started to journalize their lives. I tried to understand why there is a noticeable lack of compassion when cancer comes a callin’. True, some people don’t know what to say to the family and can’t really offer words of encouragement or help. I sympathize. But it also makes me mad. How hard is it? 

I am blessed this time to talk to some of the most interesting people. We hear about movie stars and other prominent people making it through cancer diagnosis all day long. And that is a good thing. But what about us ordinary folk?

Make no mistake, cancer diagnosis is frightening, no matter what stage or form it comes. And money does make a difference in the quality of care and home recovery. I have seen people struggle in shelters with an IV bag dragging behind them as they push their cart of meager possessions. And I have seen rich people leave the cancer hospital in private helicopters. Their IV bags tucked away in designer carts.

This book is about ordinary people with cancer. The average Joe you pass by. How do they make ends meet ?….. How do they deal with diagnosis, treatments, insurance, work, and the bills….spouses, kids, dogs, cats,..and the mailman…oh.. hell, just life in general when CANCER COMES A CALLING!

got you thinking….huh

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Making Memories with Mike's Family

Hello Friends,

In case you have been under a rock, this weekend is Memorial Day Holiday.

Some consider it to be the jump off point to the summer.

I mentioned to you earlier that I had plans to 'chill' and catch up on some things. I have been so busy I almost forgot the importance of what Memorial Day was.

While gathering material for my long weekend, I happen to meet Mike. As with most new acquaintances, I talked his ear off and he patiently listened. When I stopped to exhale, Mike took the leap and began to tell me about his own familys' journey. He has three close relatives that all had cancer in one form or another. He shared with me how they overcame very bad diagnosis to survive and now they were going to be together this weekend making memories.

It touched my heart. What where the chances of three very close relatives being diagnosed with cancer? In a way, Mike's family could honored too. We honor our soldiers this weekend, and rightfully so. Because of their unselfish sacrifices we can enjoy the freedom and options of being alive. We can enjoy making memories like Mike's family.

I guess Cancer Survivors are like soldiers too. But they don't get basic training, they get on-the job-training. Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to disrespect our soldiers, cause I am a military brat. And proud of it. And I am also a cancer survivor.

I would not know Mike if I saw him on the street. He and I never saw each other face to face. But I consider him a friend. He helped me through a difficult time today. And as I silently listened to him I could tell he was very proud of his family. They showed courage and might in the face of destruction. Their survival comes on the heals of many past brave men and women who left big footprints to fill. Their bravery is rewarded with medals. And I suppose in a way survival from a cancer diagnosis is like a medal too.

As with many families in our great land, Memorial Day will be celebrated similar to Mike's family. I can remember those past Memorial Days when my Dad was chief cook and bottle washer. So much togetherness, so much love and sooooo many dishes to wash!

So go ahead, Mike's Family, do your thang! Take lots of pictures, give hugs, eat until your belly hurts and there is a long line to the bathroom!

Uncle Bud will probably get drunk and say something stupid, of course he won't remember it, but you will. Your cousin will drag some poor sap into the family fold and you will want to kick him out. Someone will spill something on mom's rug. She will be mad, but she will secretly smile later at the memory. ..
Cause whether you want to admit it or not, that's what REAL memories are made of!

Have a Safe and Happy Memorial Day.

p.s. remember those that can't be there

............and thank you Mike for sharing your family with me..........

Home

Hello Friends,

Another holiday is coming and I’m behind the desk. Have no plans to hang out on the beach or fly anywhere. This holiday I plan to sit and catch up on some editing  and maybe catch a movie. 

Times like these make me appreciate the peace of being alone. And I could do quite a bit if I tried. But, who am I kidding?

I’m going INSANE!!  Ahh, I only WANT to be alone when I PLAN it! Not when it is imposed me. Sure, I like things quiet, what can you expect from an ‘empty nester?’

But come holiday time, I LIKE the sound of a family gathering, the smell of burgers and the feel of a cold drink.

So this year, I won’t get to hear those sounds or taste those burgers. Instead,  me and roman noodles will cozy up to my computer and pound out the keys.

Try not to think of me, but if you do…..all I ask is that as you belly up to the bar….and  take a sip for those that can’t be there.alone, holiday

Check out my next blog on Mike’s Family

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Helping Others --STAND UP

Hello Friends,

It's been a while since I wrote you-- but don't fret, you can't get rid of me so fast! Ha ha..

Seriously, I've been busy working on a few projects and helping to raise money for a worthy cause. It felt good to do something unselfishly. I went to bed feeling satisfied in a small way.

I know I talk a lot about helping others and doing what you can, but I am appealing to the deeper sense of responsibility in all of us.

I volunteered to help at a local clinic. And I couldn't believe the lack of supplies and resources. Basic things we take for granted were not available to these women! Some had to wait over 6 months to get an appointment, and some had no funds to get perscribed medications.

I won't even tell you about the waiting list for prothestics.

It was upsetting to say the least! All this --in the good old USA!

Oh, sure we have the new health plan, and yes, you can TRY to get emergency aid for food stamps, but what about those that fall in the cracks??

You heard of them, too poor to get insurance and too rich to qualify for state aid.

Now I'm all for the national health plan in some form or other, but that's taking too long!

Some of our female relatives and neighbors can't wait until all the details are worked out. They need an answer now. Cancer doesn't schedule appointments. The local health clinics are overworked and understaffed. Some can't even afford to pay for doctors, nurses and supplies.

We, as a community, a nation, should TRY to step up and give a hand. Lets' look at volunteering one day a month or when you can. Lets' look at donating the price of one cup of coffee per week to a health clinic, you know, every little bit helps.

A non profit group I work with is trying to raise funds for The Patient Assistance Program. They have a raffle going on now, why don't you take a moment and look at some of the items.

Check out, http://www.behindthepinkribbon.info.

You never know- you may come out a winner in more ways than one.

Lets' not let our volunteers, doctors, and nurses think we don't care.

Can we just put our differences aside and help someone?

Think about it, sleep on it, and call me in the morning.

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Travel and Seeking the Ultimate Life

Hello Friends,


It's been eventful since the last time we talked. I'm lying here trying to figure out which state I am in. The only bad thing about traveling this time is that it was not for pleasure. I had business on the West Coast and business in the Midwest, some time in the middle I had business on the East coast. According to my layover schedule, I crossed the US twice!
(But, I must admit it was good to see my family for a minute).


In the past several weeks, I have hopped and jetsetted like I was rich! But the reality of travel is cost. I have collected reciepts from just about every dollar store and two for one eatery along my route. Yes, I have the actual proof that traveling can be done on $10 a day! On top of that, I'm realizing that I am way too old to be doing this much longer. Not a spring chicken anymore, and I'm not rich. It takes a lot out of me now to even get up early. And I hurt in places I can't remember that I had.


A couple of good things came out of the travels though. I met several interesting people on the planes. A couple of authentic snowbirds, they were energetic and happy. They traveled back and forth with every changing season. I envied their spark. A laid back beach beauty, who had all the bling and style of a spontaneous rich life, and a beautiful senior newlywed, who showed me fantastic photos of her new life, (kind of made me want to get hitched just to have memories like that.!! )


I got advice and suggestions that I know I never would receive from a tour book. I know where the happenings are and where I should not go. I got tips on the best diners and fishing holes. It was as if I was given the map to the very nooks and crannies of the ultimate life.


It made me start to think....... like looking into a crowd and wondering where everyone is going.......Deep down, could everyone be looking for the ultimate life too? Do we strive toward that even though we stay in the same place our whole life? Could this be why I travel so much? Do I feed off the sense of adventure and unknown? And if I stopped, could I be denying my true nature? Would I become a dull person and rot away?

My family and friends think I need to settle down. They say I need 'roots'. Mom says a rolling stone gathers no moss. Truthfully, I agree, but I like traveling! Even with all is ups and downs. And although I'm weary of airports and lost luggage I still pack up!


Who am I kidding, I can't see myself retiring soon, the call to continue in whatever plan God has for me is too strong. I need to see around the next corner, and I can't wait until I go to that artists spot on the beach, or para sail over the park. To eat shrimp grilled on the beach at sunset or teach my grandkids about adventure.


So yes, although I am too old and tired, I know deep in my heart I will continue to make that next trip. Cause I doubt if I will ever be able to settle down, it's my natural nature. And you know, perhaps I already have my ultimate life, it just took three strangers and a layover to help me realize that!

Take Heart

Well, Friends,

Here we are again at that fork in the road. Got to turn left or right.

Since I am not privy to the Almighty plan, I have to go by faith. After all, emotions don't pay rent!

For my radio followers, I haven't forgotten you. I have been dealing with a bad cold and the frog in my throat is slow to hop away. I promise I will be back soon and better than ever.

I have a few new topics lined up and I'm sure you will like them. Stay tuned. Details Soon!

Have a great week!!!!

Endure & Do What's Right

Hello Friends,
We are in the midst of a national debate. Endure and Take heart, America.
Now, I'm all for it, because I have been on both sides of the issue. I know what it's like to be underinsured and have no insurance. And, I have worked jobs that took half of my monthly pay for medical insurance.On the same token, I have experienced having terrific insurance.

But rest assured people, no one rides for free! This will cost somebody, but who and how much is what I think the debate is really about.
Tread carefully on this, but remember to be fair, because we should want to do what is right by our neighbor.

Take Care

Plugging Away!

Another day, and another dollar? ooooohh, I hope so.

How is everyone doing?

Spring Is Coming!

Hello Friends,

Well, it's that time again! Spring!!

Time for cleaning of both house and mind. I plan on adding to my already full plate by getting new clothes, something bright and of course, age appropriate. I don't want to embarrass the family.

Anyway, the new book is slowly coming along. I still am trying to adjust the story line.

What are your plans for spring? Hint: Try something adventurous !

Let me know what you decided to do.

Until next time, take care and plan some 'me' time!

Read Behind The Pink Ribbon

So Much Going On!

Hello Friends,
It's the end of the month now, and I am looking at my massive 'to-do' list. I don't know about you, but for some reason, this list seems to grow each day!. I just knew that when I left my desk yesterday I had only 10 things to do, but the next morning I really had 20.

Lately, I have been working on my branding stuff. I hope to have that done shortly. It's flustrating at times.
But I try to look upon this as a learning period of my life. These things are not in the 'fine print'. I think sometimes we are meant to struggle thru stuff just so we know the real value of it all. Makes you wonder.

Life is short people, and tomorrow is not certain. But we can pray for the best.
Hang in there and lets' keep hope alive, and maybe someday we will be able to see the end of the dreaded 'to-do' list.
Have a great week!

Keep Movin'

Hello Friends,

If you recall, I call myself starting an exercise plan late last year. Well, it started out ok, but soon my lymph edema began and I looked like the Pillsbury Dough Boy. In fact, I was doing the opposite and getting bigger, not smaller.
So after crying to my doctors, I decided to do some research and TREAT this on my own. I adjusted my medication, my diet and tried to lower my stress levels. Well, I tried to. Big MISTAKE!
After a rather painful month of new meds, my doctors finally got me regulated. WHEW!! But I'm still bloaty.
The thing about lymph fluid is that it will build up in the funniest of places. My lower tummy is flat, but I carry a tire around my upper tummy. My shirts fit funny and my pants are tighter. Go figure.
But my doctor says no gym yet. Huh?? He isn't the one walking around bloated.

So I've started to exercise my arms more each day. After all, I use them so many times every day. I begin with a stretching move. Something like Pilate's. I raise my arms and try to reach for the sky. I force my mind to concentrate on each section of my arms virtually 'willing' my arms to reach out. I do this for 5-10 minutes
It's a process, I tell you, and some days are better than most. But I keep trying . Painful, but I'm working on it.
And that's the key, we need to keep exercising.......and don't ever stop......

I try to read something different too. Newspapers, the Internet or a good book can be found close to me at any time. I'm always trying to expand my mind. Sometimes, I read my own articles. I don't like to because it can take me off my daily task list. I tend to re-do stuff. Got to work on that.
Reading takes me places, it's true what they say about a good book propelling you into mental happiness.

So this is my monthly challenge, start a mini exercise plan just for you and pick up a good book. For starters, you can read mine, Behind The Pink Ribbon. It can be found in local bookstores, if not, let me know.
Stay tuned for my new book. It promises to be a thriller!
Keep the questions coming---

Take Care.

Saints Go Marching

WHO DAT ?? Go Saints! Nice Job!!!

Was everyone watching the game?

Birthdays

Hello Friends,

Well, another birthday in the family has come and gone. I am thankful that I got to be a part of another celebration for a loved one. How about you?

Been working on my next book, lots of twists and turns and very different from the usual books I write.

It's the kind of book that makes you sit up at night, at least for me.

My prayers out to Phil Harris' family. He was the star of Deadliest Catch on the Discovey Channel. Energy like his doesn't come along too often in life. He will be missed!

Here's a thought---Do you think about America's urban areas? For example, the desolation of Detoit. No one realized how much the decline of an industry could wreck a cityof that magnitutude until you see the disturbing pictures. I was wondering does anyone have any idea what to do with all those empty factories, houses and schools?

Can we create the green jobs there? Something to pray and think about.

Keep the Faith!

Drop me a line sometime.

Lovers Day

Hello Friends,

Valentines Day is near! Why don't you do something different and send love to someone who you haven't thought about in awhile? Perhaps an old friend or elderly loved one. I'd like to go to a senior center and just handout valentines cards. Remember those? The little tiny fold up ones,
we stayed up late to fill them out...ha ha, working off the teachers' list......
They were the hi light of our day back then. Just remember how you felt, and try to spread that love to someone who really would appreciate a tiny card!

Recently returned from the doctors office. ouch!!! Biopsy, pain & me, need I say more?
Take Care

Keeping up with pj

Hello Friends,
Well, seems I am at it again! Found myself sitting with two pilots the other day, and just based on the very pleasant time I'm sending 'props' to SW Airlines.
Good people. Hey guys, hope I didn't talk too much , ha ha
Anyway, the weather is cold and I am ready to go back to the office and pound away on the keys. My many projects are getting done, but at the cost of me being tired.
Oh well, progress takes sacrifice.
Keep the mail coming, I enjoy it! Have a blessed day!!!!
Later--

Behind The Pink Ribbon by pj ledar: Just a Note

Behind The Pink Ribbon by pj ledar: Just a Note

Just a Note

Well Friends;
Seems like time is going by too fast! Half the month is gone!
Been working on my 2010 'to do' list.
You know, dealing with taxes, new diet, new year resolutions, filing taxes, having headaches, managing my stress level, oh, yeah.... did I mention the...T a x e s .....
and to top it all off....this week, I find myself fighting lymphedema yet again, and that is not easy! oh, hmmmmm

But, these are small things to deal with compared to the tragedy in Haiti. I am praying that everyone can keep personal differences aside and support this nations' rebirth. Much has been lost already.
The bottom line-- It all comes down to the quality of life and what we can do to help. Something to think about.

Helping Others

Hello Family,
If you can't send anything to the people of Haiti, just pray.