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Hello Friends,
As usual your truely is on the go! Just returned from seeing my grandkids, yep, I have grandkids. It wasn't a happy time, but a comforting one if you can relate. Sort of bittersweet. But in the midst of all the trauma, I did learn something I wanted to share with you. Something called 'common ground'.
You may have heard about it in many ways, mine came in solutions format.
You see, there are times when this is necessary. Common ground has some main factors that have to be present for it to work. So here goes:
1-We all agree to diagree.
2-We all agree we need a fair solution. Take emotion out of the equation. Look at facts.
3-We all agree on the tools or resources at hand.
4-No changing in the middle of the stream. Like adding new terms or conditions.
5-We must take turns to speak our point of view.
6-Respect those views. Keep your mouth shut if you have a nasty comment. I had a hard time with this one...
7-Here comes the another hard part. Making a outline of what we desire. Refrain from coming across the table and choking someone! again, hard time with this.....
8-Linking resources and conditions to acheve that desire. Again RESPECT!
9-Establish a cut off point. Final decision... if in question, refer to #4
In other words, speak now or forever hold your peice!
I'm not a shrink as you can see, but these simple steps helped me this past month from going over the edge!
But...They only apply if other people are willing to CHANGE for the COMMON GROUND!
Ps. This doesn't apply to 'family' they tend to operate on a totally different plane. And you know what I mean!
Till next time, try to stay off the 6 o'clock news! and TALK IT OUT people.....Talk it out!!!
Love and respect,
pj
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